Julianne McDevitt, RN



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It is never too soon until it's too late...

A good day tomorrow starts with a good talk today. If you become seriously ill, would the people who matter most really know what matters most to you ?

Share the kind of care that's right for you, and what your good day looks like - no matter what happens tomorrow.


Conversations clarify. We can't plan for everything but we can manage life's unknowns by talking openly about what matters to us and what we'd want most if we became seriously ill. Conversations about things we can't control can actually give us a sense of control.


We can have a say in our care. Getting the healthcare we need often involves decisions, and we can and should speak up about the kind of care that works for us and ask doctors to recognize what matters to us. Asking for what we want for our care also means telling those closest to us what we'd want if we couldn't make decisions for ourselves.


Information is power. We can help answer tomorrow's questions today by sharing our values and preferences with the people

who matter most. We may not be able to predict every choice we'll have to make, but we can give those we love the guiding principles to confidently make  decisions for us.


If we don't say it, they won't know it. Our caregivers may need to make decisions for us, whether we've told them what we want

or not. We can't simply assume they know.


You know you.We're not doctors, but we're the experts on what's right for us and our lives.When we share our values, preferences and wishes with our doctors, we're part of the team that helps us get the right care for us.


Having a say means getting the most out of every day. Serious illness care can involve choices that impact our quality of life. The more we speak up, the better care can be, and the more we'll have the chance to receive the kind of care that works for us.

Caring means learning what matters to them. There may be a time when we have to help the people closest to us. - our friends, our spouses, our parents or grandparents - get the care that's right for them. Delivering on the promise means understanding what is most important to them in the face of serious illness.


It's worth it. To ensure our loved ones get the care that's right for them, we have to understand their values, preferences and needs by making conversations a priority. The more we talk about the kind of care our loved ones want and expect, the more comfortable it becomes for all of us.


Talking can strengthen relationships. The trust involved in conversations about care, and what matters most, can serve to bring us closer. Asking those closest to us about what they would want in the face of serious illness is a way to show them we care. And it helps prepare us to be the best support we can be.     


Introductory Presentation for Groups


An overview of the process of Goals of Care discussions which entails planning now for future health care decisions to empower those who matter most to speak for you in the event you are not able. The presentation also touches upon topics such as understanding all your choices – palliative care, hospice, how the MOLST can guide medical care, and more. The presenter will share personal and professional experiences to illustrate the importance of planning in advance for your personal, emotional and spiritual needs as well as your goals for medical care . This overview lays the groundwork for (*) individual private sessions with the Certified Advance Care Planning Facilitator and for (**) more detailed workshops..

*Private Sessions

Guided by a Certified Advance Care Planning Facilitator, individuals will discuss their healthcare goals, learn how to appoint a health care agent, and clarify any questions they may have about the process of completing their advance directive documents (i.e. living will, MA health care proxy form). Individuals are invited to bring their health care agent to the meeting.

**Small Group Workshops
How to start the  "good talk" with those who matter most.
How to create a living will to encourage these important conversations.
How to choose a health care agent and how to be a health care agent.
How to talk to your doctor.
Understanding all your choices.
How the MOLST is used to guide care.
How decluttering can create space for "more" life.         
"This Is How People Die" 
"NEW RULES for end of life care"

QUality of life, self advocacy and Self Determination 

A good day tomorrow starts with a good talk today. If you became seriously ill, would the people who matter most really know what matters most to you ? Share the kind of care that's right for you, and what your good day looks like - no matter what happens tomorrow.